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A Queer By Any Other Name . . . by Clare Moran

16/11/2012

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"Queers. Because I'm queer.  I'm gay.  I'm homosexual.  I'm a poof, I'm a poofter, I'm a ponce.  I'm a bumboy, baddieboy, backside artist, bugger.  I'm bent. I am that arsebandit.  I lift those shirts.  I'm a faggot-ass, fudge-packing, shit-stabbing uphill gardener.  I dine at the downstairs restaurant, I dance at the other end of the ballroom.  I'm Moses and the parting of the red cheeks..."

                                                            ...Stuart Jones in Queer as Folk (Russell T Davis/Red Productions/ 2000)


He tackles the negatives head on in a scene that, despite being 12 years old, is still as powerful now as it was then.  I was called 'Lemon' throughout my high school years.  I have been called poof, lezzer and dyke since coming out.  At the time, I laughed off the comments as I recognised the idiocy and the sad lives of the people saying them.  That doesn't mean they didn't hurt.  My name is not lemon, not puff, not lezzer, not dyke, it's Clare. The easiest way for someone to express their homophobia is to call someone a derogatory name.  It may be lazy but it is a rather effective weapon in belittling someone. 

I have a question.  Has the word Queer been reclaimed as a positive word to represent LGBT interest?

I have never really had cause to think about this until recently.  I have spent the last few months in the Czech Republic and while searching the internet for suggestions of things to see and do in Prague I came across a website called www.praguewelcome.com which is 'Prague's official tourist portal'.  My first instinct was to browse the gay pages.  I was taken aback when I saw that the gay section was headlined 'Queer'.  Queer activities, Queer community, queer, queer, queer.  My first and what I assumed was my natural instinct was to be insulted.  Queer is a homophobic term surely?  I was outraged but then I started to think about it a bit more logically There is a bar on Manchester's Canal Street called Queer. I have referred to myself as Queer. I have friends who use the term Queer instead of Gay.  Peter Tatchell hashtags #Queer in his posts.  Is Prague's tourist portal actually more modern and relevant than I give them credit for? Is Queer the accepted translation for homosexuality in the Czech Republic? Have I become Mary Whitehouse in my prudishness?

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I emailed praguewelcome.com asking them why they chose the word Queer for their subtitle?  I got a response confirming what I was dreading.  I really have become old and behind the times!  It was actually a brilliant email. They told me that Queer was recommended by the Czech Gay and Lesbian Society in Prague as it is an 'umbrella term' for sexual and gender minorities used all over Europe.  They even signposted me to the website for the Czech Gay and Lesbian film festival which was taking place at the time.  It's actually called the Mezipatra Queer Film Festival.  

So my initial reaction of insult and anger has now turned into pride (and slight embarrassment).  A nation that still plays Chumbawamba on their airwaves has taught me a valuable lesson in being more willing to question my opinions.  I now believe it is possible to successfully reclaim a word that has previously been used to inflict so much distress and pain.  Still, if I ever hear Ann Widdecombe say Queer I will still take it as an insult!

How do you feel when you hear the word Queer?  Do you think that it is possible for groups to reclaim words that have previously been used to insult them?  Is language even important?

I'd love to hear your comments.  Please use the comments facility which you will find below.

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CJ de Mooi link
16/11/2012 3:58am

The English language is the largest and most descriptive on Earth. It's therefore inevitable that words, spellings and definitions will evolve, become more prevalent or simply disappear.
One only has to look at the word gay. Happy to homosexual to lame (another frequently changing word)
I fully support all free speech, whether I agree with it or not, under the simple proviso it isn't directly intended to insult or offend. I don't mean whether some people actually find it offensive as that's a personal choice (claiming offence is often a failsafe reaction to avoid entering into an intelligent and open debate) but simply if it was the intention of the initiator.
Gay people use queer and black people use nigger but would either be disconcerted if another group of people employed the words, irrespective of any ulterior motive? Most probably.
Overtly racist terms have generally disappeared from society but as someone who is considerably left of the most liberal of liberals, I get uncomfortable at terms like Gippo and Chinky.
Of course labels will always be in circulation and they will always present unsatisfactory connotations to those to whom they're applied and others, such as my overly liberal self, who have difficulty disassociating themselves.
However, the point remains that unless something is deliberately abusive, the term and person using it should be accepted as indicative of society's need to define and compartmentalise.
We're all people with the same basic needs, goals and fears. Language was developed to bring us closer together. It really shouldn't be allowed to tear us further apart.
CJ

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Dan
20/11/2012 5:16pm

Queer cannot be compared to the word n*gger.
Very ignorant.
Queer studies is a genuine academic subject field. I wrote my dissertation on the subject.
It has nowhere near the same connotation as fag or 'chinky'

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23/10/2013 11:10pm

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Jose link
22/02/2014 7:24am

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