Coming Out can be really hard. It's a complicated process which often causes feelings of confusion, doubt, guilt, shame, excitement, fear, relief and anxiety. There is no rule book explaining the best way or time to tell your loved ones that you are gay, lesbian or bisexual. That's because there is no 'right' way or time.
R U Coming Out inspires, supports and unites those who are living their lives either completely, or partially in the closet. The site was set up (and is still run) by Wayne Dhesi in March 2012 while he was a Youth Worker for the National Health Service. He noticed a gap in support for closeted people and had an idea that gay, lesbian and bisexual people who had come out years ago and were now content and happy, could share their experiences with those who were struggling with coming out now. The main focus of this website is the stories. People from all over the world write and submit their own personal accounts of Coming Out. The purpose of this site is not to encourage people to Come Out before they are ready or to make them feel under any pressure to do things in a particular way; it is simply a source of first hand accounts from people who have already been through, and are still going through, the process themselves.
R U Coming Out is also a really useful tool for parents and friends of those who have Come Out, offering them first hand accounts from other parents, relatives and friends of gay, lesbian and bisexual people. The website is updated every single month with new stories and features.
Start exploring the website by selecting a page below...
Media . . .
R U Coming Out has generated lots of really positive coverage since its launch in March 2012. Click on the links below to read features, articles and interviews with the website's founder Wayne Dhesi. Some of the links will take you to the main site; in these cases our feature would have appeared in print format. We'd like to thank our friends at the organisations below for their support!