Bobby Norris | 25 | Essex, England | Reality TV Star
Looking back now I guess I have always known I was gay, or certainly different to others around me. I remember being obsessed with the drag act Lily Savage as a very young age, maybe as young as 8?! I know this is an adult content theme, but I would secretly watch on videos around the house. I guess I first understood fancying boys when I hit 11 years old. I remember being confused and alone, thinking no one else could possibly understand how I felt.
I was 13 when I first told someone I was gay. The guy I told was the first guy I had kissed so I wasn’t that scared as I knew he already knew if that makes sense? From the moment we kissed that night it was like a light went off inside me and I thought “this is right”. I then told my school friends at the age of about 14, that was scary but people around me have been very kind and I became what we now know as the GBF. I think being a young child and starting teenage years are hard enough at the best of time, we need some kind of added support for gay and bisexual teenagers at school.
"It's taken years for me to feel comfortable with
I think we live in a world that judges others and there will always be people who think I’m living my life in the wrong way. I find it so strange when people ask “why did you choose to be gay” which it’s such a crazy question I can’t find the words to answer it…No one would “choose” to be gay, you are born gay.. FACT! I think when I hit 21 I really was comfortable with my sexuality; it’s not something I am ashamed of and don’t feel I should hide it or try to cover it up. However, I still feel there is a sense of embarrassment about being gay; I don’t think I will ever feel comfortable kissing a guy in a supermarket, that’s not to say I judge people who do.
I was scared about telling EVERYONE that I was gay! I felt a sense of shame towards the fact I “didn’t fit in” and only heard gay being used as a derogatory term. Being gay is a great character building exercise for a person though, you have to learn so much about yourself and build such confidence to help you defend yourself to any hateful or nasty comments you may face from day to day. This I feel is not a bad quality for a person to hold, so being gay has some perks! I was definitely scared how friends and people at school would treat me, I certainly didn’t want to be the kid beaten up after school at the gates, I was a bit larger at school anyway and was certainly nothing great to look at (nothing’s changed) but what with that, it did feel like potential social suicide.
"I was surprised that some of the people who I considered friends turned their backs on me."
Worse than that though are the two faced people that are lovely to your face and slag you of behind your back; I have no time in my life for these kinds of people. I’m a fantastic judge of character and know early on if I’m going to get along with someone. I find it such a shame how in 2012 we still have people who can’t accept two consenting adults of the same sex being in love. We need to let the next generation know that homophobia won’t be tolerated.
I feel so lucky and privileged to receive the feedback I get from the public, I hear such lovely comments from guys struggling with their sexualities and saying me being myself and open about being gay has given them the encouragement to come out themselves. That to me is the best recognition I can receive from somebody, it’s so so important to be proud of who and what you are. I even get the butchest and straightest of men asking for photographs and stop to talk, I find it so refreshing when people are comfortable in their own skin. I will never cover up my “gayness” to suit people around me; we only live once so we should make it count.
"I’m very much single at the moment but I am definitely ready to start dating
and have seen a few good looking guys about in Essex, and let’s say one
or two have defo caught my eye …Watch this space people!"
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