Jessica | 22| Coatbridge, Scotland | Technical Advisor
I’d like to start this by saying that I’m not gay, nor am I bisexual. I’m a 22 year old girl in a heterosexual relationship of three years and I’m incredibly happy with that. When my fiance left me when I was 17, I genuinely never thought I’d find love again. I thought I’d always be alone, nobody wanted me and all the other self-inflicted emotional abuse we constantly hurl at ourselves. But then I got back in contact with a good childhood friend and, over time, we became “friends with benefits” after he went through a pretty bad break-up. With a bit of gentle persuasion, we fell in love, and I’ve never been so happy to have that feeling back, that feeling of being loved.
The whole reason I’m writing this story and why I want to get my voice heard is because I want to ask one question; If a man and a woman are ‘allowed’ to feel this amazing feeling of being loved, a feeling that only happens with someone you truly bond with, why is it STILL to this day frowned upon by so many if a man and a man have these feelings, or two women?
The whole reason I’m writing this story and why I want to get my voice heard is because I want to ask one question; If a man and a woman are ‘allowed’ to feel this amazing feeling of being loved, a feeling that only happens with someone you truly bond with, why is it STILL to this day frowned upon by so many if a man and a man have these feelings, or two women?
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The world is in far too much turmoil as it is to be actively concerning itself over which gender one person falls in love with. At the end of the day, what exactly IS the problem? If you ask anyone who doesn’t accept homosexuality why they don’t accept it, 99% of the time you’ll be greeted by a spitting response of “Well, it’s just plain wrong”. When asked why, “It just is”. This does NOT count as an answer, it is not, by any rhyme or reason, an answer to the question asked – it’s an automatic defence because, in all honesty, they don’t really know why.
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What I’m trying to get at here is one simple thing – We live in the year 2012. Back in Victorian times they may have had rules and laws against homosexuality and people lived by the law, and that’s fine. That’s in the past. But we’re now in the age of people, including the law, the government, the Royal family and the vast majority of the population who can happily live side by side with a person and not give a damn if they’re straight, gay, bisexual, transsexual, transvestite, pansexual, asexual, whateversexual. The vast majority of people don’t actually care what kind of “sexual” you are. The sad fact is there is still the minority population of people who just won’t accept it, for whatever ignorant reason they dream up that day.
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I view homosexuality as being similar to believing women are a lesser species, that they are inferior to man. Many many MANY years ago, it was not okay to be homosexual, it was extremely frowned upon. In the same way, many many many years ago, women were generally seen as the inferior. Now, these days, if a man was found being derogatory or domineering over a woman, there are so many laws and rules and people who will be more than willing to get that woman out of that situation, and take legal action, very serious legal action. In the same way, these days, homophobia is and should be a serious offence and, gradually, that is coming into place. As far as I’m aware, the police can arrest someone for homophobic abuse, and we’re slowly bringing this in across the developed countries of the world, and that’s a major step. We’re finally realising that, if you can be punished for insulting a person on their race or creed, then why shouldn’t you be punished for insulting that person’s sexuality as well? We’re rolling this across the world, slowly, and that is a huge step in the right direction.
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To wrap this up, I guess I just want to say to anybody in the who is struggling with coming to terms with their sexuality, or who is in fear of telling their relatives or friends, or who feels that they aren’t 'normal' –
"Love is special. Love isn’t straight. Love isn’t heterosexual. Love isn’t something only a man and a woman can share. Love is one of those rare things that just does not have a definitive definition. Love is how we interpret it. Love is something to be shared with someone you bond with; someone who has a deeper place in your heart than just being a mate. Love is something you should be proud of. Being in love is something you should cherish and something you shouldn’t have to fear."
Go out, be yourself. Love whoever the hell you want love. Have sex with whoever you want to have sex with (remember to be careful!). Listen to the music you want to listen to. Watch the movies you want to watch. Dance the way you want to dance. Dress the way you want to dress. Talk how you want to talk. Believe what you want to believe. Talk to who you want to talk to. Be free, be YOU, and anyone who stands in your way? Ignore them and walk around them! A hard lesson I learnt a few years ago is that you only get one shot at life, and it’s not all that long. You only get one chance to be who you want to be and do what you want to do, so get out there and live your life! And always remember, you're BEAUTIFUL, you're SPECIAL and you are YOU!
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